Exit, rather than crash, if a Windows plugin is missing its project.

Fixes #51743

Adds utility code for managing list of plugin projects within a solution file, updating them as the plugins change.

This is a prototype of an approach to solution-level portion of Windows plugin tooling; it may not be what the final plugin handling on Windows uses, but it makes things much better in the short term, and gives us a baseline to evaluate other possible solution management systems against.

Part of #32719